Every Valentine's Day or Qixi Festival, watching friends around you showing off their relationships as couples, do you silently ask yourself: "Why isn't it my turn yet?"
Honestly, I used to be just like many others—swiping on dating apps until my hands were sore, attending countless gatherings, but fate just delayed its arrival. At that time, I even felt that perhaps I was destined to be single for life. I remember one time, disheartened, I went to pray to Yue Lao (the Matchmaking God). After begging for ages, the divination blocks gave me nothing but "laughing" or "yin" results (indicating rejection or uncertainty), and I couldn't even get a fortune stick. The frustration of being "left on read" by the gods really made me want to cry.
It wasn't until later that I discovered: my method of praying to Yue Lao was completely wrong!
Unwilling to just give up, I re-examined my mindset and methods. To my surprise, after I adjusted these 3 key details, magical things happened. Not only did my mind become very settled, but just 6 months later, I actually met my current partner—and their conditions perfectly matched the wish I had made to Yue Lao.
Do you want to know what changes I made? This article will unreservedly share my complete experience from failure to success. As long as you follow along, I believe your destiny is on its way too!
Why Wasn't Praying to Yue Lao Effective? 3 Common Mistakes
Before telling you the correct method, let's check if you stepped on these 3 common landmines. These are also mistakes I made the first time I prayed:
- Mistake 1: Picking a random time to pray
Many people go on a whim, "Hey, the weather is nice today, let's go pray!" resulting in arriving at the temple in the afternoon or even evening. Actually, the timing of worship matters. - Mistake 2: Being too obsessed with the "wrong person" in your wish
I used to force a specific name, ignoring the deep inner knowledge that we weren't suitable. When you cling to the wrong door, the right door cannot open for you. - Mistake 3: Wishes are too vague, or conditions are all about "fear"
This is the most serious error! A wish like "Please give me a boyfriend" is too general; Yue Lao won't know who to match you with. Even worse, if the emotion behind your wish is "fear of loneliness" or "fear of being unwanted," this negative energy will actually push destiny away.
Next, let me tell you one by one how to optimize these 3 details.
Detail 1: When is the best time to visit Yue Lao? 9-11 AM is the Golden Hour
Folk tradition suggests that 9 AM to 11 AM (the Si Hour) is the best time to pray to Yue Lao. It is said that the "Yang" energy is strong at this time, and the gods have just started their office hours and are in the best spirits.
My Personal Experience:
I later adjusted my strategy and specifically woke up early to pray at 10 AM. The crowds were thinner then, unlike the packed weekends. I could talk to Yue Lao calmly from my heart without worrying about people queuing behind me, urging me to hurry, so my mind was easier to quiet down. It is said that deities are almost always home in the morning and go out to work in the afternoon!
Small tip to avoid crowds:
On big days like the 1st and 15th of the lunar month, it will be especially crowded! Remember to leave home very early (e.g., 7-8 AM).
Detail 2: How to make a wish that works? Let go of attachment to a "Person" and ask for the "Right State"
Attachment blocks your true match. This is the most painful but most common mistake. Many people (including the old me) take a specific person's name and beg Yue Lao: "Please let me be with so-and-so." In fact, deep down, a voice often knows 'this person isn't right,' perhaps due to incompatible values or because they simply don't cherish you.
But because of unwillingness or fear of loneliness, we choose to cling to this wrong door. When you use all your strength to push a door that won't open, you have no hands left to open the 'right door' Yue Lao has prepared. When I stopped stubbornly chasing that "wrong person" and made space in my wishes, the truly right person appeared in less than three months.
Detail 3: How to articulate your wish to Yue Lao effectively? 3 Steps to clarify your ideal partner
This is what I think is the most critical step! Many people pray to Yue Lao like shopping at a convenience store without saying clearly what they want to buy.
The Correct 3 Steps to Make a Wish:
- Report Personal Data: Clearly state your name, date of birth (Lunar or Gregorian), and residential address so Yue Lao can precisely locate who you are.
- Concretely Describe the Partner: Don't just say "Tall, Rich, Handsome" or "Fair, Rich, Beautiful." Specifically describe personality, values, and interaction dynamics. For example: "Gentle personality, responsible, likes outdoor sports, compatible with my financial views..."
- State Your Sincerity: Promise how you will return the favor if the wish comes true (e.g., bringing wedding cookies back), and that you will cherish this relationship.
My Painful Lesson:
The first time I prayed, I just said, "I hope to be in a relationship soon." Later, a few people did show up, but we were completely incompatible! This was because the wish was too vague.
Here comes the point: What emotion is hidden behind your list?
Later I discovered that if I was thinking "I crave to be loved" or "I'm afraid of being alone" while listing conditions, this sense of lack would block manifestation. What you need is "Emotional Manifestation."
But here is a key: The emotion behind the list is more important...
→ For the full story and tutorial, please read this: Why Your Ideal Partner List Isn't Working? I Used "Emotional Manifestation + Matchmaker Verification" to Find My Ideal Partner in Half a Year
Recommendation of 5 Effective Yue Lao Temples in Taiwan
Knowing how to pray is important, but where to pray matters too. Taiwan has several Yue Lao temples recognized as super effective. You can choose one that is close to you or one you feel a connection with.
1. Taipei Xia-Hai City God Temple
- Address: No. 61, Section 1, Dihua St, Datong District, Taipei City
- Feature: The most popular Yue Lao in Dadaocheng. Although the temple is small, it is bustling with incense smoke, and it is said to be highly efficient in granting red threads.
- Worship Tip: After praying, you can drink the "Peace Tea" provided by the temple. Remember not to blow on it to cool it down (it's said you'll blow the fate away); just drink it directly.
2. Taipei Longshan Temple
- Address: No. 211, Guangzhou St, Wanhua District, Taipei City
- Feature: A historic site with a long history; Yue Lao is located in the rear hall.
- Worship Tip: You must pay respects to the Main Deity (Guanyin Bodhisattva) before praying to Yue Lao! This is basic etiquette. The fortune sticks at Longshan Temple are usually very accurate; if you have questions, you can ask for a stick for guidance.
3. Taichung Le Cheng Temple
- Address: No. 48, Hanxi St, East District, Taichung City
- Feature: Legend has it that it is particularly powerful for "getting back together." If you still can't let go of an ex, many people recommend this place.
- Worship Tip: This temple feels very warm, and there is a lot of delicious food nearby. Going with a relaxed mood yields better results.
4. Nantou Sun Moon Lake Longfeng Temple
- Address: No. 291-26, Zhongshan Rd, Yuchi Township, Nantou County
- Feature: A Yue Lao temple with super beautiful scenery! Originally on Lalu Island, it was later moved here.
- Worship Tip: Suitable for arranging as a travel itinerary. Taking a walk by Sun Moon Lake after praying will naturally help your romantic luck bloom as your mood improves.
5. Tainan Grand Matsu Temple (Da Tian Hou Gong)
- Address: No. 18, Lane 227, Section 2, Yongfu Rd, West Central District, Tainan City
- Feature: One of the four great Yue Laos in Tainan, matching hundreds of couples every year.
- Worship Tip: You can ask for "Fate Powder" (Yuan Fen) from Yue Lao here. Applying it behind your ears is said to increase your affinity with others.
Recommended Reading: Ideal Partner Manifestation List Tutorial
After Praying to Yue Lao, You Need to Do These 3 Things Even More
You've finished praying and got the red thread, so what now? If you think fate will fall from the sky just by lying at home waiting, you might be disappointed. Yue Lao connects the thread, but the ones walking towards each other are always you and your partner.
Conclusion: Yue Lao Connects the Thread, But You Walk the Path
Looking back at this journey, I feel that praying to Yue Lao isn't just a ritual, but a process of self-clarification and commitment.
Through adjusting these 3 details: Choosing the right time, being in the right state, and making the right wish, you are actually sending a strong and clear signal to the universe: "I am ready to accept love!"
Relationships do require a bit of luck, but what they need more is your affirmation of yourself. When you live confidently, happily, and fully, the right person will naturally appear at the right time.
I bless everyone who lives earnestly and loves bravely to find someone who understands and cherishes you. You got this! 💖
Want to know how to write that "Magical List" that helped me successfully escape singlehood?
→ Extended Reading: Why Your Ideal Partner List Isn't Working? I Used "Emotional Manifestation + Matchmaker Verification" to Find My Ideal Partner in Half a Year